Now it’s time for my story. My (Melissa’s) story involves change, too. Remember months ago on a Faith Friday where we made homemade Oreos and I disclosed to you that my husband had just been deployed for the third time to Afghanistan? Well, the time is (not quickly enough) approaching when he will be home again. He won’t be coming to my home, though, because (and I’m sorry if you feel duped, for those of you that don’t know us personally) we’re separated. There we are. Kids in the Sink isn’t perfect! Shocker, right? Ha.
This is a food blog so I’ll try not to get too heavy here but it is Faith Friday and you know how we can be. This is just me, sharing a part of my life, with you, our readers. It felt kind of like a lie when I would talk about him here, so I didn’t much. But that’s awkward too, since he is still my husband. No, we don’t live together, and not just because he’s deployed. We separated almost a whole year before he left, in fact. But despite that, he is that man that I stood in front of God and everyone and took vows with. Yeah… so…
That kind of brings us back to the military. We all have our things, right? Of course. We have our things and we’re all plenty screwed up without ever adding any kind of extraneous variables. Military + several deployments + normal-every-person-has-issues issues = potential implosion. Without going into too much detail, a lot of the problems my husband and I have been faced with have been as a result of the things he has faced during his time in service. This isn’t a post to bash the military. I have enjoyed my time as a military wife. I enjoy the security that it has brought us financially, medically, etc. What I don’t love is the lack of mental health care my husband and his buddies are faced with when they come back from these long (as much as 15 months!) deployments. That part makes me sad. Sad for him and all the other men and women out there that think they are alone in this.
This post also isn’t about me pretending to know what those men and women in uniform have been through. I have only seen it second-hand through my husband, who deals with PTSD every day of his life. He loves his family and his kids and his friends fiercely but struggles to connect with people who haven’t had similar experiences to him. You can see how this would cause problems in a marriage, yes? Marriage, every day life, relationships, friendships, everything. That brings me to what this post is really about: faith. Faith in God, even when it seems like He isn’t there.
This week Heather and I had a conversation and during said conversation, God revealed to her something that was kind of epic for us both. She said, “God will keep you safe because He is always there. Being hurt doesn’t mean that you’re not safe.” Wow, that’s a game changer. The Bible shows us in Hebrews chapter 11 that God allows us to be hurt sometimes but that by faith, we are able to walk on. Early on the in the chapter, it defines faith as “confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see” (Hebrews 11:1). And then verse 3 goes on to say, “By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God’s command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible.” So, you see, we have to have faith that God knows what’s best, even when we can’t see it. Even when we feel like there’s no one in this world that knows what we’re going through. Even when we’ve put things before Him. Even when we feel undeserving of His love, or anyone else’s for that matter.
He just tells us to have faith, even when what He’s telling us might not make sense to the world, or to us. Abraham was an old man when God told him that he would have more offspring than the stars in the sky. He didn’t scoff and say, “Whatever, God. That can’t happen.” He obeyed and he believed , regardless of how crazy it must have sounded. He had faith. Do you have that kind of faith? I think many of us fall short in that area. I know that I do. But I’m trying and I’m stepping out into a world that condemns people for doing things seemingly foolish out of faith. And sometimes that means ruffling some feathers and being gossiped about. But that’s okay because by faith, I (and you) can overcome any obstacle that Satan tries to throw our way.
Thank you, dear readers, for taking the time to read a little bit about what is going on in my life. Your prayers are appreciated and your stories of faith are certainly welcomed here! And please remember to thank a veteran because you will never know of the sacrifices they have made to protect our country’s freedom. Now congratulations if you made it this far because an amazing recipe is on the horizon!
Double Chocolate Chunk Kahlua Cupcakes
Makes 12 cupcakes
For the cupcakes:
1 1/8 cups all purpose flour
2 tbsp black cocoa (You can use 1/4 regular cocoa powder if you don’t have black and dutch-process)
2 tbsp dutch-process cocoa
1 1/4 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp salt
3/4 cup granulated sugar
1 large egg
2 tsp vanilla extract
1/2 cup unsalted butter, melted
3/4 cup Kahlua
41/2 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips
1/2 cup white chocolate chips
For the frosting:
1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened to room temperature
3 1/2 cups powdered sugar
1 tbsp Kahlua
1 tsp vanilla
- For the cupcakes: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line a muffin tin with cupcake liners and set aside.
- In a medium bowl, whisk together the flour, cocoa, baking soda, and salt. Set aside.
- In a large bowl, whisk together the sugar and egg until well combined and no lumps remain. Add the vanilla and melted butter and whisk to combine.
- Add the dry ingredients to the wet and stir with a wooden spoon until the batter is smooth. Stir in the Kahlua, then gently fold in the chocolate.
- Use a 1/4 cup and fill the cupcake liners until almost full. Bake for 15-18 minutes, until a toothpick inserted comes out clean. Let cool in pan for 5 minutes, then transfer to wire rack to cool completely before frosting.
- For the frosting: In the bowl of your stand mixer, cream the butter until light and creamy, about 2 minutes.
- With the mixer on low, add the powdered sugar, about 1/2 cup at a time, scraping the sides of the bowl as needed.
- Add the Kahlua and vanilla, and mix until combined. Beat on medium-high for about 3-4 minutes, until frosting is light and fluffy. Frost cupcakes as desired and garnish with shaved chocolate.
Source: How Sweet Eats